“Directly addressing unkind, dominant, abusive, bullying and pre-bullying behaviors—that’s Best For The Boy.”
A child, aged 10 – 14+, is identified as repeatedly engaging in mean behavior. Usually this has been brought to your attention by the child’s school, though sometimes it’s recognized by a parent or family member who’s concerned about the child’s unkind, dominant, and ‘entitled’ attitude toward others whom they treat rudely or abusively. Sometimes this abuse is sibling-on-sibling, sometimes it is ex-friend on ex-friend, sometimes it’s random. If you’re unsure, see ‘Guidelines on Identifying a Bullier’ on the Schools & Agencies page of the website.
The parent and child go to bestfortheboy.org and examine the website together. Any questions should be directed to Contact Us
The parent(s) seeks the assistance of an adult acquaintance to serve in the role of 30-day mentor. The mentor may be a family friend or relative, though we advise that he/she not be an immediate (i.e live-in) family member.
The mentor is sometimes a faculty member at the child’s school, found with the assistance of school administration. Call the school Principal and ask for their help if need be, and give them the Best For The Boy™ web address (www.bestfortheboy.org) so that they may themselves fully understand the course, and the role and duties of a course leader or “mentor”.
For more information on this important choice, see ‘Choose The Right Mentor’ in the Who The Course Serves page of the website.
Click here if you’re asked to be a mentor.
If the child has any learning challenges or has some minor difficulties with spoken English, now would be the time to decide if he/she will need the help of a tutor to succeed in the course. The mentor helps the child process the course content after each video lesson has been viewed; a tutor watches the videos alongside the child and ensures that there is no communication breakdown that makes understanding the lesson impossible in the first place. So in some cases, both a mentor AND a tutor will be necessary for the 30-day period.
The parent or guardian enrolls the child at bestfortheboy.org Enrollment occurs when an application is submitted along with payment of the one-time, single-use fee. FOR PRIVACY PURPOSES, THE CHILD’S NAME MAY BE SHOWN AS HIS INITIALS (e.g. “BC” for Bill Carter), A PSEUDONYM OR A NICKNAME ON THE APPLICATION, though the legal parent or guardian name and all other information must be complete and accurate.
You have enrolled your child; at this point in the process, the child and mentor should be introduced—either in person, by telephone, or through video call—if not already familiar with one another.
Please note that because we recommend visual communication between the mentor and student, even when shared physical presence is not possible, you will need to have a video calling app and account (e.g. Skype, Zoom, Viber, FaceTime or other VoIP tool) active on a home computer and be familiar with its use/features. For information on downloading and using this free software, do an online search of “Free VoIP services”.
An email from Best For the Boy™ arrives to the approved applicant’s email address, welcoming him to the course. The email address you noted when enrolling (which will serve as your username) along with the password we provide should be immediately shared with the mentor, who will also be viewing the video lessons to become familiar with their content prior to his mentoring conversations with the child. Enrolled users have 30 days to complete the course, at which point the password will no longer allow viewing of the video lessons!! So it’s time to get going on Step 7…
The child begins the course by logging in* and carefully watching the Orientation video, which parents should definitely also view, takes the quiz, and then goes on to video Lesson 1. Both of these videos are found in the ‘Lessons’ link after sign in. After viewing video lesson 1, the student takes the quiz and then immediately contacts the mentor for a conversation on the video lesson content.
*Login is restricted to afterschool hours (after 4:30pm weekdays in most regions) and open all day on weekends. This restriction may be waived during 2020-2021 covid-related school closures.
*Please also note that each video may take up to two minutes to load, to avoid streaming interruptions while viewing. Thank you for your patience.
The child goes on to watch the second video lesson (unless the mentor has asked him to watch the first again, which sometimes happens if the mentor is unsatisfied that the student fully grasped the content), and so forth and so on. Just as with the first video and all the videos following, the child watches, listens, and contacts the mentor to discuss the ideas presented. This is continued through to the end of the course. It would be a good idea for the mentor and the child to establish a schedule for watching & discussing the videos, so that the course is well paced. The child should NEVER go on to watch a new video if the previous one has not yet been discussed with the mentor.
The child finishes the course within the 30-day period, having watched all videos, taken all quizzes and having discussed each one with his mentor. Best For The Boy™ should now be contacted BY THE MENTOR so that an evaluation of the child’s performance may be completed. Once approved, parents will receive the numbered Notice of Completion by email. If the child has participated in a particularly cooperative and effortful manner (in the sole opinion of the mentor), the Notice of Completion will be delivered with a seal affixed acknowledging “Full & Faithful Participation”. If the child is reported to have not participated in a fully cooperative manner, but has satisfactorily completed the course, he’ll receive a Notice of Completion without the seal of Full & Faithful Participation. The Notice may be passed to the child’s school (or other agency’s) administration, if necessary, as confirmation of course completion.
*If you’re proceeding to enrollment in this course, your child must have access to a reliable home internet connection and a computer (note that watching the lesson videos on a small screen device is discouraged). Because most mentors choose to converse with the student enrollee remotely (i.e. from their own home or office), the child may also need access to a video calling app (e.g. Skype, FaceTime) and an account/address. Note that video calling apps necessitate the use of a video camera; most recent-model computers have a video camera built-in. The household should also have access to a printer since documents will be sent electronically and some will need to be printed. Your mentor may be willing to print these items for you.